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MY STORY: I Explored India On a Cycle and a Shoestring Budget And Will Be Going to SE Asia Soon

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In the MY STORY section, we present some of the most compelling and pertinent stories and experiences shared with us by our readers. Do you have something to share? Write to us: contact@thebetterindia.com with "MY STORY" in the subject line.

My name is Mohit Kapoor and I am a cycling enthusiast and traveller by heart. When my father offered to buy me a scooter at the age of 16, I decided to pass on his offer and asked for a bicycle instead. I wanted a petrol-free vehicle. My father let me have my way and soon, I started a journey to explore Rajasthan.

Not satisfied with this small sojourn, I decided I wanted to travel from Kashmir to Kanyakumari.

2 I had no money but I was not to be deterred. I set off on my bicycle for a journey that took me from Rohtang Pass near Manali in Himachal Pradesh to Vivekanand Rock Memorial at the southernmost point of India. Alone, without money or a sponsor, I sold my cell phone to arrange equipment for this tour. Finding food and shelter in gurudwaras and temples during the trip, I conquered the goal I had set for myself and lived a dream that I chased all alone. Pedalling from Manali to Kanyakumari in less than a month and then sitting on the last rock in India, touching the seagreen waters of the India Ocean, I encountered the good, the bad, and the beautiful of India.

In the second and concluding part of this odyssey, I felt like I had left my teens behind to become a man, and had come to know myself through my bicycle, a strong pair of legs, and a will of steel.

3 Self-inspired as I was, I again decided to venture on my next cycling expedition. Travelling through Ladakh on a saddle and two pedals, I lived this dream too with the same fervour. By the time the trip was over I knew I wanted to explore the world. I had learnt a lot about India from the roads I had travelled but was thirsty for more adventures. I had always dreamt of being a chef. I had grown up devouring food shows on TV and always wanted to visit the Middle East. But, sadly, that was out of the question as it meant having to cycle through Pakistan and Afghanistan. Not only was this dangerous, my parents would have scuttled my plans even before I took off. I then decided to plan my ride to South East Asia instead, via the great Himalayas. That would kill two birds with one stone - not only would the ride take me through some of the most amazing places on Earth but I would also able to immerse myself in culinary adventures far removed from the Rajasthani food I was accustomed to. My endeavour has already begun. I will be pedalling through nine countries of South East Asia – India, Nepal, Bhutan, Myanmar, Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, and Malaysia. My plan is to not just witness some breathtaking landscapes and scenery but to indulge in and learn about the famous foods and traditional tastes of every region on my route. I can't think of any better way to make my dream come true – I will be gratifying my soul by traversing through spectacular landscapes and also my taste buds by indulging in delicious foods. It was hard to explain my decision to my parents to take a break before I joined college and ride on a bicycle for a year. It took me five months to satisfy their queries and convince them that my journey would be a learning process, so essential for a young man on the cusp of adulthood. But now, after having planned my dream ride to the last detail, I hit another pothole: where would the money come from? I started to look for sponsors. I met many people from different companies for help. I used to hitchhike as I did not have enough money to buy tickets. And most of the time I thought people would loosen their purse strings to support a noble venture but, alas, I was politely declined. I would make my way back home with disappointment written all over my face. Somehow, goodwill worked and I got some sponsors for my trip – but no cash. I decided to set out anyway and see how I could manage and make my way on the road. Next morning, I had a lovely breakfast prepared by mom with lots of love and blessings for my continental adventure. After all, how many kids are crazy enough to venture on a bicycle to unknown lands? Here I was, taking off into the wild blue yonder with an undefined destination or time. There was only a vague plan to see the world and learn to cook Nom hua chuoi or the banana-flower salad in Vietnam. It helped me when some friends decided to ride along for the whole day; their camaraderie and good wishes gave me the strength to reach Delhi where I was surprised to see a big welcome planned for me. There were around 100 pedal pushers from the cycling community, who had assembled to cheer me on. There, my jersey pocket became unexpectedly heavy – someone had slipped in an envelope containing Rs 3,000 with a note that simply read: 'Happy Journey!' My eyes were filled with tears; I couldn’t even thank the well-wisher who dropped it in my pocket as I did not know who he/she was.

Next day, with my heart full of emotions, I left Delhi and reached Karnal toll by night. People would stop me and ask where I was heading. After a long conversation and delicious dinner with one of these strangers, I camped there and slept.

1 The next day I crossed Ambala, deciding to leave the highway and taking the back roads. The ride was more interesting than I expected. A lady stopped me and asked me to spend some time with her family – she was the wife of a mukhiya of a village. I was lucky to witness a gram panchayat meeting and taste some local delicacies she had prepared for me. On my way to Kullu, I met with an accident and lost the only jacket I was carrying with me. I reached Manali and called a friend to ask him to loan me his winter wear as I did not have enough money to buy a new jacket. I stayed at a backpackers’ hostel in a small village called Jagatshukh, where I met people from different countries. We all stayed up late to watch the starry night and have some fun. My breakfast was not what I was used to having back at home. But I relished some fresh apples from the trees nearby. I trekked to a waterfall and visited a village to learn how to cook some local dishes. Soon after, I left for the Spiti valley – an amazing part of the world! I went on to Nepal and finished exploring that country too. Next, I left for Kolkata to arrange for a visa and permits for Myanmar. This will take time since I am short of funds. In the meantime, I have left my bike behind in Kolkata and am currently walking and hitchhiking in South India to learn more about the cuisine here. If you would like to help Mohit achieve his dream, you can contribute to his trip here: http://www.ketto.org/munchingonsaddle You can follow his journey herehttps://www.facebook.com/muchingonsaddle

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Meet the Brilliant Foot Painter Who Was Born without Arms but Still Went on to Set a World Record

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From combing her own hair to dressing up for college to working on beautiful paintings – this Raipur teenager does whatever she needs to with her toes! Born without arms, there is nothing else that separates Damini from other ‘able-bodied’ people around her. This is her story of courage and determination. “‘Don’t keep thinking that some part of your body is disabled’ – this is what I would like to say to children living with disabilities in India. ‘Always, think of yourself as someone equal to any other individual and you will succeed. You don’t have to change. The only things that need modifications are the viewpoints of others’.” – Damini Sen. A 19-year-old resident of Raipur, Damini was born without arms. But never once in her journey did she let her disability become a hurdle.

The confident and cheerful teenager uses her feet and toes to do everything she needs to in everyday life – in addition to studying and painting.

damini3 Among Damini’s many successes is an astonishing feat – this foot painter set a world record for the highest number of drawings (38) made with her toes in one hour, an achievement that earned her a place in the Golden Book of Records, 2015. “Painting is my hobby. I paint using my toes like any other person paints using his/her hands. I enjoy the process and want to practise it whenever I get the time,” she says.
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Additionally, Damini scored an impressive 80% in Class 10, writing all her exams with her toes. Damini is adept at independently performing her daily chores – like preparing a full meal or getting dressed by herself.
The person she thanks most for helping her accomplish what she has is her mother. “My mother never let me lose hope. She was determined that I should grow up in a world where I could access quality education and nobody would discriminate against me. She wanted me to become independent in all respects,” she says.

Her mother, Madhuri Sen, first learnt how to write using her toes herself before teaching Damini the same.

damini1 Madhuri would learn every new thing she wanted to teach Damini using her toes and would then show her how. She pushed both herself and her daughter to excel. Soon, Damini was even drawing with sketch pens. Her parents noticed her interest in art when she started making small drawings and they encouraged her to take this interest forward. Gradually, Damini learned how to paint by practising at home. What began as a hobby grew to become an integral part of who she is today. Currently, the BSc first year student is busy with her studies and painting is restricted to practise sessions over the weekends. She finished Class 10 and 12 from Maa Banjari Gurukul Vidyalaya in Raipur and is now doing her Bachelor's from DB Girls’ College.
Her family members, including her parents, sister and brother, support her in every possible way. “I believe God gifts children to parents. So you can’t discriminate when raising them based on their abilities and disabilities. Kids are like soft clay. They take the shape you give them. My family raised me like that. They tell me that I should study as much as I want to and support me in all my decisions,” says Damini.

The talented girl adds that while it was a challenge to get admission in school, the journey from thereon has been pretty smooth – her teachers and friends always treat her as an equal.

damini2 Except for being provided a separate seat where she can sit and write comfortably, she gets no other special treatment at school. She wrote all her exams herself because she did not want to depend on anyone else. And of course, she passed with flying colours. Looking ahead, this extraordinary young achiever wants to become an IAS officer and work for children with disabilities. “When I started writing with my toes I used to hesitate thinking that people would laugh. But then I decided to stop being concerned about other people. I thought: ‘God has given such a beautiful life. I should make something of it,’” she smilingly sums up the motto that gives her life meaning.
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Damini will be speaking at the India Inclusion Summit to be held in Bengaluru on November 19. Register here to attend the event.

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Why a Man From Maharashtra is Educating the Daughters of Militants Killed in Encounters in Kashmir

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In the quagmire that is Kashmir, a young man from Maharashtra has adopted 200 daughters of militants killed in encounters, giving them shelter and providing them with an education. The girls had no other place to go to in the deeply patriarchal society of the Valley. Shazia Khan was a toddler when her father was killed in an encounter. He was a militant.

In 2007, a few years after his death, Shazia’s mother admitted her in a shelter home.

[caption id="attachment_75383" align="aligncenter" width="879"]The Borderless World Foundation's home in Kupwara The Borderless World Foundation's home in Kupwara[/caption] In a predominantly male dominated society, where women hardly step out to work, it would have been gruelling for Shazia’s mother to raise her daughter on her own. Today, Shazia, 19, is in Maharashtra, studying homeopathy. Shazia is from the Anantnag district of Kashmir, which has been plagued with conflict for decades. But even as Shazia’s mother endured the volatile times of the 90s when militancy had erupted ominously, in a parallel world, a political science student in Pune was becoming intrigued by the prevailing hostility in the Valley. He would prove to be the difference between hope and despair for Shazia. Born in a farmer’s family in Ahmadnagar, Adhik Kadam decided to visit Kashmir in the late 90s to gauge the situation first hand after interacting with his Kashmiri Pandit and Kashmiri Muslim friends in the university. It was supposed to be a 15-day trip. He ended up staying there for almost four months.
“I saw many people being killed during my stay,” said Adhik, 39. “The biggest victims of a bloody conflict are kids growing up in the atmosphere.”

According to Save the Children, a non-profit, in 2014 there were 215,000 orphans in the Jammu-Kashmir area, 37% of whom had lost either their father or both their parents to terrorism.

[caption id="attachment_75385" align="aligncenter" width="879"]2 A young girl at the Kupwara home[/caption] In a grossly patriarchal society burdened by unemployment, women palpably lead lives as second-class citizens. Therefore, a child who has lost his/her father is considered an orphan. If the widow remarries, the new family often shuns the children from the first marriage. After experiencing the tumult in the Valley, Adhik thought it “was a sign for me to do something for the kids in Kashmir.” Cut to November 2016. Adhik is in California, being felicitated for his work in Kashmir. However, the journey has been adventurous, intimidating but extremely gratifying, says Adhik, who eventually founded the Borderless World Foundation (BWF). He decided on the name after witnessing a wedding at a village located along the LOC, where the bride was Indian and the groom from Pakistan Occupied Kashmir. After arriving at the decision to move to the Valley, Adhik had to zero down on the district where he would work. He chose Kupwara, the heavily forested located right along the LOC, where the skirmishes had left, and continue to leave, a significant number of kids in dire straits. With four girls, he opened his first ‘home’ there in 2002.

Immediately after he announced the opening of the home in Kupwara, a local maulvi issued a fatwa against Adhik, inciting people to socially boycott him. He said Adhik was a Hindu, an outsider, could be Bal Thackeray’s man as well!

[caption id="attachment_75384" align="aligncenter" width="390"]Adhik Kadam Adhik Kadam[/caption] But Adhik was determined to go ahead. “An orphan girl in Kupwara inaugurated the home,” he says. When Adhik was still exploring the right place for his home, he was picked up by the militants who mistook him for a spy. Militants would pick him up 19 times over the next 15 years, and each time he would return without a scratch. “It would not have been possible without the help of the locals,” says Adhik. “They helped me financially and ensured my security as well. Magnanimity is in abundance in Kashmir. Sadly, hardly anyone has taken the effort to experience it.”

The home that started with 4 girls in 2002, is now a buzzing family of 52.

[caption id="attachment_75386" align="aligncenter" width="879"]Girls learning to operate the camera at the Kupwara home. Girls learning to operate the camera at the Kupwara home.[/caption] Razia Malik, 16, says she has never been happier. She was admitted to the Kupwara home two years ago, and her grades have shown dramatic progress since she now has the stability she needed. “After my mother remarried, I would be sent from one relative to another,” she says. “I could not concentrate on my studies. I do not visit my mother’s new house though she regularly visits me at the home.” Razia’s father too was a militant, and she knows that. “It angers me to be honest,” she says. “I do not have any memories of him, which troubles me the most. I am aware of the atrocities in Kashmir but violence is no answer.” As word about BWF spread across the Valley, Adhik started receiving recommendations, volunteers and finances. Gradually, he expanded by opening similar homes in Anantnag, Beerwah and Jammu, where, as of now, BWF is looking after close to 200 girls in the four homes, all of whom have lost either both their parents or fathers due to conflict.

The homes have full-time guardians, are equipped with computers and have gardens where the girls play in the evening. Adhik has provided the grownup girls with vocational training.

[caption id="attachment_75387" align="aligncenter" width="879"]The homes are equipped with computers The homes are equipped with computers[/caption] Ten of them in Kupwara now run a business centre next to the home, where they make sanitary napkins, embroidered cloth, fabric paintings, etc. It is the only women’s business centre in the entire Kashmir region. However, Adhik says he incurs an expenditure of around Rs. 80 lakh per year to run the four homes and pay for the studies of the girls outside Kashmir. “Most of my donations come from Maharashtra,” he says. “I have solicited some from abroad as well. We manage somehow.” But why only girls? “It is exponentially more difficult for girls growing up in a patriarchal society,” says Adhik. “There are people in Kashmir working for the betterment of boys, but nobody is willing to take on the responsibility of girls due to security concerns.” However, his success story in the heart of conflict, has not been appreciated by those with vested interests. About four years ago, Syed Ali Shah Geelani, in his newsletter, accused Adhik of doing religious conversions and selling Kashmiri girls in the rest of India. How did Adhik counter an allegation so grave, and that too from a man as popular as Geelani? “I did not,” says Adhik. “I continued to work. Geelani is remarkably influential in the Valley, yet not a single person attacked me or questioned me after his accusations. That was a statement in itself.” Adhik is not politically savvy. His opinions are often naïve and romantic. He only knows the language of compassion, which, he believes, has the power to transform anything. In 2006, he said a Hizbul militant walked into one of his homes with two of his colleagues and started inspecting the facilities and making inquiries. “I had no idea he was a militant but my staff knew,” he says. “They got anxious as the three of them barged in.” However, the militants left very shortly.

Around 8-10 months later, a woman approached the BWF manager and requested him to admit her daughter. She turned out to be the wife of one of those Hizbul militants. After visiting the home, he had apparently told his wife to approach BWF in case he died in an encounter.

6 “His daughter is 11 today,” says Adhik. “She is very happy at the home.” Apart from the girls in Kashmir, 8-10 girls from BWF are now in other parts of India, pursuing higher education. One of them is Shazia. In spite of all the risks, Adhik is staunchly standing behind her, which makes him her “pillar of strength”. She says, “I have been at the Anantnag home since 2007. It does not feel like home. It is home.”

Over the years, Adhik has formed a bond with the girls that he says is hard to explain. “I have washed their clothes, combed their hair,” he says. “I am their friend, brother, teacher. When one of the girls got married, I thought I was her father.”

[caption id="attachment_75389" align="aligncenter" width="1042"]5 A teacher with the girls in the BWF home[/caption] Adhik is aware the quagmire of Kashmir is too complicated to be solved by adopting 200 orphan girls. “But these girls would one day go on to raise kids,” he says. “Their kids would get the upbringing most in Kashmir do not get today. That is how a society is transformed. It is a slow process but it has to start somewhere.” When asked what they want to do in the future, Razia and Shazia both say they intend to help the people of Kashmir like ‘Adhik Bhaiyya.’ “I am one of the fortunate ones to be living the life I am,” says Shazia. “I want to go back and make sure many more kids in Kashmir get the opportunities I did.” Adhik Kadam can be reached at adhik@borderlessworldfoundation.org. You can check out the website of BWF here. And the Facebook page here. (The names of Razia and Shazia have been changed to protect their identity and avoid discrimination since their fathers were militants).

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About the author: Parth MN is a special correspondent with Los Angeles Times. His twitter handle is @parthpunter.

For This Fingerless Cobbler at a Delhi Street Corner, Every Day of Work Is an Act of Courage

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Dinesh Das, a humble cobbler who has been working from the same spot in Delhi for almost two decades despite losing his fingers, cuts an inspiring figure. New Delhi resident Dinesh Das, 39, remembers being in such a rage he could have killed the man. The man in question was a doctor in his home state of Bihar, where he was visiting his in-laws and had developed a fever. The doctor gave him the wrong medicine. As a result, his hands were covered in ugly rashes. If the infection spread, Dinesh was told, he could lose both his arms. He sought help from another doctor who said the only way to save his arms was to amputate his fingers.

The procedure left Dinesh with ten uneven misshapen stubs where his fingers and thumbs used to be. But this tragedy did not prevent Dinesh from continuing to do what he had always done since he was a 10-year-old boy – work as a cobbler.

The cobbler at work.
It is the only thing he had ever done, the only thing he was trained to do, and, fingers or not, he was going to continue. “I had a family to feed,” he says. Fifteen years after the incident, Dinesh can talk about what happened to him with a measured calm, choosing to focus on the fate he escaped rather than his misfortune. “He is like a god to me,” Dinesh says of the doctor whose timely decision to operate saved what is left of his hands and allowed him to continue working as a cobbler. Dinesh’s family moved to Delhi in 1990 from Ramganj village in Bihar. His father is also a cobbler; he taught his young son all about the mending, cutting, stitching, gluing, and polishing work that goes into reviving an old shoe – work that has stained his skin and hardened his hands, so they seem like worn industrial tools themselves. He is one of many who live on the sidelines of the capital’s busy life – another workman at another busy traffic intersection.

He has occupied his nook in Dwarka, a dusty suburb of Delhi, for almost two decades now, watching it transform from a ghost town of empty buildings into a bustling neighbourhood.

cobbler-3 He was there this Diwali. He was there on Holi, on Republic Day, and on every other day that the Government of India deemed a gazetted holiday. He was there because there were shoes to be repaired, sandals to be mended, and bags whose zips had given up. There was also some money to be made. They are meagre, the earnings of a city cobbler. A ten here, a twenty there. “On a good day I can mend up to 200 shoes,” he says. He takes home around Rs. 15,000 a month. Dinesh is at his spot by 9 am every morning. He takes few breaks, mostly to drink water or to chat with a friendly customer. Even as he talks, he remains hunched over his work station, muttering responses, his eyes fixed on the shoe in his hands. His fingers, whatever is left of them, busily weave through the tough fabric of a branded shoe. He doesn’t take lunch. Once he gets behind his last, the inverted foot-shaped instrument that is the centre of a shoe mender’s work, he rarely moves. After the day is over around 9 pm, he gathers his tools, the shoes, and the raw materials for the shoes into a large white plastic gunny bag, throws it over his shoulder and begins the half-hour walk to his home in a nearby neighbourhood. When the load is too heavy, he says, he gives in to the exhaustion and hires a rickshaw. But a ride costs 50 rupees. It is 50 rupees he cannot afford. So he avoids the rickshaws and walks. “I cannot spend 100 rupees just on travel,” he says. If the earnings of the day are not enough, the 100 rupees he saved by walking would help him buy milk. A one-litre packet of full cream milk costs Rs. 49 in Delhi. The milk is not for him; in his house, only the children are granted this luxury. His greatest joy is to come home and be handed a glass of water by one of his children. His 20-year-old son is already married and works as a driver at a nearby hospital. His middle son, 16, and 2-year-old daughter and wife live with him. The cobbler’s life revolves around his children. So it is with some hurt that he recalls their reaction to the news of his operation. His wife was inconsolable, and his sons kept asking what had happened to his hands.

“‘Who will I ask for money from?’” he remembers his elder son asking in distress. “From your father,” his wife replied. Dinesh has not let them down.

cobbler-use He tries not to dwell too much on the past and on the adversities he has faced. From his corner in the city he has seen enough misfortune strike others. He recalls the day a Maruti car was thrown up into the air in an accident that wiped out half of a family. He has been sought by policemen, sometimes for bribes and at other times to help them solve daylight robberies. Those are uncommon, but on a daily basis his job also involves giving directions to umpteen lost souls in this maze of high rises. He keeps up with his regular customers. He can tell you who has moved, whose son is getting married, who has a new job. He can also tell you who planted the four majestic trees that guard his spot and provide him and countless others fleeting moments of relief on hot sunny days. The trees are the fruits of his own labour and foresight. He points to another tree he planted recently in the empty plot behind him, a young tamarind tree jostling for space with weeds and litter. The tamarind is a slow-growing tree; it can grow up to 18 meters. Dinesh plans to be around to see it rise to its full glory. It will probably outlive him; these trees can survive hundreds of years if no government agency or greedy developer interferes. It will continue to provide shade, even to people who never notice and would never know that a fingerless cobbler was the one to plant the seed. If you wish to help Dinesh in any way please write to editorial@thebetterindia.com

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TBI Blogs: Experience NetaG – an App Designed to Bring You in Direct Contact with Your Local Politician

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Are you tired of spending days and weeks trying to get your local politician or elected representative to take care of your civic issues? With this new app, assistance is just a tap away. When 63-year-old Saraswati saw that the megaphones were playing unbearably loud music during festivals and disturbing everyone, she picked up her smartphone, opened an app called NetaG, and simply followed the steps to file a complaint. Within an hour-and-a-half, a local neta (leader) appeared on her street along with some of his helpers, found and spoke to the person playing loud music, and reasoned with him to tone it down. The sound stayed down for the rest of the festive time. This was Saraswati’s second successful attempt at reporting a civic problem and receiving a positive response. Senior citizen Saraswati is one of the many people across Mumbai and Pune who are getting their civic issues resolved through the app. The best part, they say, is that the app offers them complete anonymity (the app does not record the complainant’s name, address or occupation) and provides safety from any harm or questioning that could arise from being identified. The idea for NetaG was born when a moment of truth hit 18-year-old IT engineer Krushnaal Pai at a voting booth – he had no idea about whom he should vote for. Given that there was no photograph of the politician or information about his work for the people at the polling station, there was no way for Pai to figure out whom he wanted to vote for. Thus began the search for a tool that would help and connect people with their political leaders and local corporators without taking too much time and effort. The result is a phone app called NetaG. Pai has since left his corporate job to give NetaG his complete time, attention, and commitment.

He has taken the platform to the next level by making it a place where people can report their problems to the concerned political leader and receive a resolution.

whatsapp-image-2016-11-24-at-3-39-17-pm For the common man to have this power in his hands is uncommon, but extremely productive for his locality as a whole. How many times otherwise would garbage, electricity, water, pot holes, lack of transport, and many other problems that concern our daily lives receive the purview of and solution by the local politician or corporator? It’s little wonder that despite living amidst problems such as these on an everyday basis, and being greatly inconvenienced by them, the common man would rather live with them than chase after the officials who will help resolve the issues. If a complaint is raised, it is almost impossible to follow up with the concerned governing bodies. NetaG’s wide acceptance is because it saves them footwork and effort but gets them a solution from the relevant people. Local politicians and leaders are also realising that NetaG is a powerful tool to help them connect with their supporters. Once the public issue is resolved, the app allows the case to be closed from either end.

The politician can garner brownie points by telling people who helped them with their issues.

whatsapp-image-2016-11-24-at-3-39-23-pm Irrespective of the problem, all it takes is one complaint from anybody using the app. The councilor or local politician in-charge then takes it upon himself/herself to resolve the issue. The instantaneous, hassle-free, and anonymous system has met with a success rate of 95% for problem resolution. The app’s UI is simple but smart, with an option to include a photograph and description of your issue. Everyone can view and reference the sourced GPS location and tabulated issue. However, the app does not take or maintain any personal data about the complainant. The complainant marks the issue as resolved on the app after resolution.

The app also lets the user show his anonymous support to the politician if he/she feels like it.

whatsapp-image-2016-11-24-at-3-39-15-pm NetaG has ascended the popularity charts as an app that actually does the job. For example, a local politician recently conducted a children’s sports event. There, people raised the issue of increasing dengue and mosquito menace in the locality through the app. The concerned officials immediately cleaned up a huge community tank the very next day, under orders from the politician. Authorities have rectified multiple cases of electricity outages within hours of a registered complaint. Having the complaint on a transparent platform makes the leaders work towards a solution. It also helps the leaders gain respect and support from the people around him/her. With local elections just around the corner, the platform has major plans, including new ways to raise seed capital. To know more about the app and try it yourself, visit the website.

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Dear Zindagi: 5 Bollywood ‘Slice of Life’ Movies That Gave Us Something to Think About

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Learning is a never ending process. It is often said that if you stop learning, you stop living. You get a chance to learn from everywhere and everyone – your surroundings, your friends, movies, plays, books, etc. All you have to do is be open to learning and you will find wisdom everywhere. Over the years, several Bollywood movies and their memorable lines have reminded me how life is meant to be lived. Not all were realistic nor did they exactly fit in the inspirational genre, but they were simple, human and connected with me on a much deeper level than I expected. It’s almost funny how the bits and pieces of inspiration I have picked up from them have helped me look at the bright side, no matter what is happening in my life. [caption id="attachment_76285" align="aligncenter" width="700"]dz-1 Gauri Shinde's recently released film, Dear Zindagi[/caption]
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Watching the lighthearted trailers of Dear Zindagi, a cathartic film that encourages you to live your life on your own terms, reminded me of some movies that have taught me some incredibly valuable life lessons. Lessons that I’d like to share with you today.

1. Jab We Met

"Aagey kya hone wala hai, is pe kisi ka control nahin hai. Toh aise mein main wahi karti hoon jo mera dil kehta hai. Meri life jo bhi hogi, mujhe pata hoga ki meri wajeh se aisi hai. Toh I’ll be happy."
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There are a few movie characters that stay with us for a long time. Geet from Jab We Met is one of these. Chirpy, feisty and darn adorable, Geet taught me to believe in enjoying each and every moment of life, taking risks and doing things my own way. Her journey in the movie taught me that it may take a moment for everything to go wrong (remember that dialogue,"Zindagi ek rail ki patri hai, ek inch ka bend aur meelo ki doori" ?), but it can also take a moment for everything to fix itself too. It’s a journey. People will hurt you, but you can’t let that stop you or change you.

2. Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara

" Seize the day my friend! Pehle iss din ko puri tarah jio, phir chaallis ke bare mein sochna "
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Zindagi Na Milegi Dobara was a movie that understood our generation more than we did and this is precisely why it holds a special place in my heart. Other than showcasing the magic of unadulterated friendship, its simple yet attention-worthy dialogues reminded me about the importance of fun and fulfilling your dreams before you realise that you never got the chance to live them.

3. Queen

" Mera sense of humour bahot accha hai, aapko dheere dheere pata chalega."
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What will happen if you hit rock bottom in life? There is only one way to go - and that is up! This is what Queen says. A movie that fills you with a strange confidence to take on what society thinks is the norm, Rani’s journey in Queen, sometimes confident, often confused, on a path that challenges her at every step, is a revelation. It taught me to never underestimate myself and more importantly, that even if there is no one, I would still have myself.

4. 3 Idiots

"Success ke peeche mat bhago. Kabil bano kabil. Kamyabi jhak maar ke peeche ayegi."
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Bollywood cinema at its best, 3 Idiots had one of the most relevant issues of Indian society at its core, a heartwarming story woven around it and a narrative that took you through the film effortlessly, leaving you happy, moved, and thoughtful in the end. There were two major life lessons I took away from this film. One, do what you love and you won't work another day in your life. Two, chase excellence and success will follow on its own.

5. Anand

“Babu moshai, zindagi badi honi chahiye, lambi nahin."
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My favourite one on the list, Anand was a movie that made a very important point about life - it's not the number of days that you have lived but the memories you have created that matter. In the movie Rajesh Khanna plays a terminally ill cancer person, who stays cheerful despite knowing that he has just a few days left on earth. As we grow older, often we get so serious that we forget the wonder of life. Anand taught me to chase my dreams, spread joy at every step of the way and  live my life like there’s no tomorrow.

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TBI Blogs: Meet Chetna Nagpal: Visually Impaired, Ambitious, and a Fighter

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People suffering from visual impairment often face extreme difficulties in various aspects of their lives. Here’s a young woman who decided to take on her disability – and its associated difficulties – head-on. Chetna Nagpal was born with an eye condition called Nystagmus. It is a condition that causes involuntary eye movement and may result in reduced or limited vision. In Chetna’s case, she can see things, but is unable to focus on anything. However, unlike many, Chetna does not think of her disability as a limitation. She believes visual impairment is more of a mental condition than a physical one.
“Visual impairment is not in the eyes, it’s in the mind. If you will feel that you are visually impaired then you will not be able to do anything. You need to go out of the way to explore the world.”
A 21-year-old ambitious young woman, she is studying in her first year as a Political Science major in one of India’s top colleges, Lady Shri Ram College for Women. Born to totally blind parents, Chetna did not have it easy while growing up. Her parents did not know she could see at all, until she was old enough to start talking and pointing out things to them.  img_9588 Chetna reminisces, “Initially my parents didn’t know that I could see at all. They had this misconception that I was totally blind like them. They used to switch off the lights and I used to cry, and they couldn’t figure out why. It was only when I started pointing out things to them that they realized I could see…When they did figure out that I had some vision, life became a bit easier.” Her journey was tough, but given her parents’ and her own optimism, Chetna never really felt restricted in any way despite her visual impairment. “My parents were very supportive. My father never stopped me from doing anything or going anywhere,” she says, visibly proud. In 2007, Chetna came into contact with a Delhi-based NGO, Saksham, who helped her integrate into an inclusive education system in Salwan Public School.
“I was admitted into Saksham where I got two years of training. There, I learnt to read and write in Braille, and learnt math using a Taylor Frame. I learnt computers. After that, Saksham trainers felt I was polished enough to be inducted into a mainstream set-up to study, and got me admitted into Salwan.”
Chetna was among the fortunate few to have teachers and school authorities who understood her weakness and helped her study along with able-bodied children of her age. She did face issues initially because the teachers were not used to addressing the needs of a visually challenged student, but they gradually managed to make the environment more conducive. Chetna made the most of her opportunity of studying in an inclusive environment. She was quick to point out her issues when her teachers failed to address her needs. Chetna even fought alone with the school authorities to get herself a good scribe so she could score well in her Class XII exams. She grabbed all opportunities in school to hone her communication skills, because she believes good communication is essential for one’s successful integration into the mainstream.
“Communication is very important. Everyone else communicates a great deal with their eyes. But for a visually impaired person, if we cannot speak well, then we cannot communicate or express ourselves fully.”
Apart from developing good communication skills, Chetna believes that persons with visual impairment should embrace technology. At her college now, with the help of assistive technology, she is able to keep up with her lessons. She is also able to commute by herself daily to college using public transport and her smart phone. “With the help of computers, I can do my work faster. Technology eases out everything,” she says. “I have a smart phone with software in it that speaks out everything. So, I don’t need anyone’s help to read out numbers to me or to save a particular number for me. I have my laptop which has a screen reader because of which I don’t need anyone to read out the written text to me – I can read it for myself. I can record things for myself. If technology is used in a good way it can be very helpful. For us [visually impaired people] it is truly a blessing. The process of education also becomes a lot easier with technology.”  At Lady Shri Ram College, Chetna has access to a resource room which is fully equipped with both technological and human support. But she believes that there is a need to replicate such support systems in all colleges and educational institutions so that visually impaired people can succeed and lead independent lives.

As a starting point, there is also a need to receive the disabled with welcoming arms into the inclusive education system.

accessible_resources Chetna has very clear views on the subject, “They should always welcome students like me. They should not say that he/she will not be able to survive in this environment. They should give us a chance.” She also feels that instead of putting responsibility entirely on the authorities, individuals should alter their behavior towards the disabled population. “I don’t know about authorities. I feel that individuals should do something. Authorities will automatically begin to do things when individuals will be more aware and proactive. The society is mixed. There are both good and bad people. They are not really bad people – they are just unaware – and they just don’t know any better.” As for the visually impaired, Chetna believes they need to believe in themselves to be able to become a part of the mainstream, “As an individual, I always believe that one should never give up on anything. One should keep trying. You have all the right to do something for yourself and for society. So never give up on hope and always think that there will be a positive outcome. If today is not a good day for you then that doesn’t mean that tomorrow won’t be better. There will be a new day, a new beginning.” About the Author: Shruti Pushkarna is the Communications Manager with Score Foundation in New Delhi. Under its flagship project, ‘Eyeway’, the organization runs a national toll-free helpline for the blind and visually impaired (1800 300 20469). Saksham is a partner member of the Eyeway network.

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An Online Portal Has Been Helping HIV+ People Find Life Partners for 10 Years. Meet the Man behind It.

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Anil Valiv, a Pune-based transport official, started a matrimonial site 10 years ago to help HIV+ people find life partners. The suffering of a close friend who developed AIDs remains etched in the memory of Anil Valiv, a 47-year-old transport department official from Pune. What still hurts Anil is that his friend’s father refused to even light the funeral pyre after his son succumbed to the disease in 2006. Anil was struck not just by the physical pain his friend went through but also the social ostracization that came with the disease.

This was an important reason why Anil decided to launch a matrimonial website, PositiveSaathi, for HIV+ people a decade ago.

fb-use-positivesCredit: PositiveSaathi.com Today, the free service, which has around 5000 registered members, is a source of satisfaction and pride for Anil. The initiative has facilitated hundreds of marriages between people who are HIV+. “It is really a big problem to find a partner,” Anil says of people who are HIV+, speaking with The Better India on the occasion of World AIDs Day. “They have a right to live like ordinary people and have kids; they are a part of society, just a neglected part of society.” Being diagnosed HIV+ is itself not a death sentence; people who are HIV+ are infected with the Human Immunodeficiency Virus, which can progressively destroy the immune system and give rise to the condition known as AIDs. There were around 2.1 million people living with AIDs in India in 2013. There is no vaccine for AIDs, the disease is incurable and treatment is costly. Not everybody who has AIDs in India is correctly diagnosed or receives the proper treatment. Some sections of society are at high risk for contracting the disease. Truck drivers are one such group because they tend to have multiple sexual partners, being out on the road for much of the time. For the past ten years, Anil, as an RTO officer, has been conducting workshops for truck drivers on road safety. A reporter suggested that he also consider spreading awareness about HIV at these camps. Anil was very disturbed to learn that some HIV+ men, when unable to find HIV+ women to marry, eventually give up and wed healthy girls without revealing their HIV+ status, ruining the lives of the girls in the process. AIDS destroys lives in more ways than one. Anil’s friend died craving for the love and comfort of a family, imploring him to help him find a partner. "I cannot forget the longing in his eyes for a family and children,” Anil said in an interview to BBC.

He recounts making trips to local hospitals to see if he could find an HIV+ woman who might be interested in marrying, but to no avail.

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Over a period of time, Anil came to realise that most people want to keep their HIV status confidential; this makes it hard for people who are HIV+ to find others like them, leave alone get married. All these experiences convinced him that there was a need for a safe accessible platform for HIV patients to find life partners.  He realised the only way to ensure their identities remained private was through a website. Members are encouraged to share photographs but they don’t have to and they can register under aliases. Initially, the response to the website was disappointing but media attention helped attract more members. Doctors and NGOs working with AIDs patients also supported the initiative. The website also has members from rural areas. When people unfamiliar with the digital space reach out through the telephone helpline, Anil’s assistant helps them register. The website even has about a 100 or so Indian members living outside India. A story reminiscent of Bollywood’s 2 States came true with the efforts of Anil. A Sikh man got in touch with a widow from Kolhapur district of Maharashtra through the website. They reached out to Anil; the Sikh couldn’t speak Marathi and the lady could barely manage some Hindi. They arranged a meeting in Pune with Anil’s help. He came with his sister. She came with a male relative. Though it happened six years ago, Anil remembers it like it was yesterday, savouring the memory. “At 9 am they met, by 10 am they decided to get married, by noon they were married,” Anil recounts. “Culture, religion, and distance were kept aside,” he adds.

The couple is now happily married and living in Punjab. They keep in touch with Anil and hope to start a similar initiative in Punjab.

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What continues to be a hurdle is the low registration rate by women. The ratio is almost 80 males to 20 females, according to Anil. This is also true of the dozens of matrimony meets that he has organised in Pune. Significantly fewer women show up despite no fees being charged; Anil even helps the women pay for the cost of transport to come for these meets. He funds the get-togethers from his own pocket; there is no government aid or donor funding. “A little encouragement to the females is necessary,” he says. Although the support of a partner might actually alleviate the suffering of those who have the disease, social taboos make it very difficult for HIV+ positive people to wed. It is not necessary that children of two HIV+ persons will also be infected.  Children of two HIV+ positive parents can escape the fate if the pregnant woman receives medication during and after pregnancy and exercises caution during childbirth and child care. Anil is seeking help from NGOs and donors on the website who want to support HIV+ orphans. “I planted the seed many years ago,” he says of the effort. “Now the tree has grown and is bearing fruit.”

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TBI Blogs: Cerebral Palsy Can Be Debilitating for Many, but 19-Year-Old Anmol Has Refused to Accept Defeat

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Anmol isn’t your average teenager. At 19, she manages her family’s grocery store in the suburbs of Delhi. As if this weren’t enough, she has overcome cerebral palsy and inspired entire communities. This is her story. Nineteen years ago, a little girl was born in suburban Delhi. Money may have been in short supply, but her family had love in plenty. They named her Anmol (invaluable) and lavished her with utmost care and attention. She was a happy baby. As time passed however, the family began to worry. Anmol had difficulty sitting up and swallowing, she remained underweight, wracked by spasms, and did not seem to gain strength despite their best efforts. Tests at the local government hospital determined that she had cerebral palsy – a permanent movement disorder. The family was distraught. Try as they might, they could not afford her treatment.

They took to keeping their small grocery store open until all hours, manning it in shifts to gather money to consult with specialists.

anmolandpoonamatanidpwdeventindelhi “Years and years passed with us feeling completely helpless,” says Poonam, her mother. “It broke our hearts to see our little girl struggling. We didn’t know where to turn, and the money always ran out quicker than we could make it. We had all but given up hope when Riya came to visit.” Riya is an outreach officer with the Plan India supported Muskan (smile) programme, implemented in partnership with Anchal Charitable Trust. Dedicated to improving the lives of children with special needs, Riya and the team began by conducting surveys in various localities of Delhi. Since then, the team has reached out to over 1,200 children with special needs through six resource, rehabilitation, and information centres across the city. They provide a host of services, including family counselling, specialised treatment and physical therapy, educational support, home modifications, and other government-issue social entitlements. On their first visit to the centre, both Poonam and Anmol underwent counselling, and the latter was fitted for a custom wheelchair and orthotics (metal braces and shoes). She was enrolled in occupational therapy to increase her mobility and reduce her pain. The Muskan team installed aids and appliances in their home for added convenience. With patience and determination, Anmol began to sit unassisted, brush her teeth, feed herself, and study basic education courses. The organisation trained Poonam to provide necessary care and support to ensure her treatment continued smoothly. Today, the love and support have completely transformed Anmol. Beaming, she manages the family store, and has tripled their customer base. Even so, she takes time out to visit the centre, continue her therapy, and encourage her friends there. As for Poonam, she is now a lead community volunteer for Muskan and manages ten children with special needs.

She is, by far, every child’s favourite – an honour and a matter of great pride.

anmolpracticingoccupationaltherapyathome Inspired by the changes she has seen in Anmol, Poonam conducts therapy with the children, counsels families, and advocates with communities and local leaders for their rights. “I ensure the children know they are not alone. That together, we can overcome every hurdle, no matter how daunting. That they have a future all their own,” says Poonam. “Every child deserves to be healthy and happy,” adds Anmol. “With the children, our families, and Muskan, we forge ahead every day.” This International Day of Persons with Disabilities, join us in celebrating Anmol, Poonam, Riya, and other such inspiring heroes the world over. Champions with indomitable spirit, they are changing the world, one step at a time. To learn more about Plan India and their work, kindly visit their project page here.

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Meet Cop Shiva: Globetrotting Photographer by Day and Constable by Night

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Cop Shiva, a photographer by day and constable by night, talks to The Better India about his journey as an artist. Before Cop Shiva became a globetrotting photographer, he was known as Shivaraju BS. Shivaraju was born into a family of farmers in a small village in Karnataka called Ramanagaram. This village, which is around 50 kms from Bangalore, is famous as being the location where Sholay was filmed.

He says, “A government job is highly sought after in the rural areas where life is very hard and unpredictable. My family suggested that I apply for one and I was selected for the job of a police constable.”

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He confesses that as a child he had always been interested in art. So, when he moved to Bangalore, he visited the “alternative art space” 1shanthiroad gallery/art studio. He was enthused to see the works of different visual artists, scholars, filmmakers and photographers who exhibited their work there. Shivaraju felt that as a cop and a photographer, he has been able to develop a keen eye for subtleties and a good understanding of people who live on the fringes of society.

The turning point in his career came when he was assigned his first project by the gallery – to photograph the lives of migrant labourers working on construction sites in Shanthi Nagar.

cop shiva 1 Since Shivaraju had no training in photography, 1shanthiroad also served a space for informal instruction. His interactions with various photographers, especially with Suresh Jayram who displayed his work in this gallery, helped Shivaraju learn more about the technical aspects of taking photographs. Cop Shiva’s impressive Instagram feed features stunning portraits of people he meets everyday on his beat.
He says, “There are many real heroes, achievers working hard to change society and bring justice to the marginalised. They act on a small scale yet they want to bring about tangible positive change. They are the focus of my work and to bring them to bigger audiences is my main target. My experiences as a farmer, a police constable, an art space coordinator, and an artist have helped me build the right mindset for my practice. Negotiating all these different aspects of my life has allowed me to construct a personal narrative that is apparent in my work.”

“My portfolio includes intimate portraits of urban migrants, people of alternative sexuality, street performers, and others caught in the middle of urban/rural conflict. I also capture the diversity of humans who live on the edge and represent the spirit of our times,” he adds.

Workers at construction site His first professional project, Being Gandhi, reflects this interest in documenting the lives of unsung heroes. Bagadehalli Basavaraj, a 46-year-old man who is the subject of this series, lives in a small village called Chikmagalur in Karnataka. Chikmagalur is one of the two places in India where there is a temple dedicated to Mahatma Gandhi. Basavaraj has been working as a teacher in various local schools for the past 29 years. He was born into an impoverished family and had to struggle to educate himself. This made him understand, early in life, the importance and value of giving to people less fortunate than himself. Bagadehalli Basavaraj looks to Gandhi for inspiration and has been spreading the message of service to humanity through the performing arts for the past 14 years.
Shivaraju, who photographed Basavaraj’s performances as part of his first professional project, says, “Sometimes Basavaraj douses himself in silver paint, dresses in Gandhi gear – bare-chested and dhoti-clad, round-rimmed spectacles on the nose and a walking stick in hand – and walks on the streets of villages and nearby cities. He sometimes stands still as a statue for hours together. His Gandhi act never ceases to surprise. Some dismiss him as insane, some throw money at him assuming that he is an innovative beggar, and many quiz him. To them, he talks about Gandhi and his teachings. Basavaraj simply wants people to remember Gandhi, he told me.”

Shivaraju’s work was unveiled before a global audience when he visited the US in November for his solo exhibition. It was titled On Being Gandhi: The Art and Politics of Seeing, and it was displayed at The Frank Museum of Art in Otterbein University in Columbus, Ohio.

cop-shiva Was it the first time that his work was displayed at an international venue? He says, “ My work has been exhibited in several national and international galleries and exhibitions. And it has been part of several group exhibitions not only in India but also in countries like the US, UK, Spain, Switzerland, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka, and Germany. I am very happy my work has been seen in so many places.” Shivaraju says 2017 is going to be “an intense and fruitful” year for him. He has been invited by the Swedish Arts Council for a three-month residential programme to work with the local art community in the country.

In May, he intends to visit Germany to attend the exhibition of his work in the museum Funfkontinente in Munich.

cop shiva 2 Does he have any advice for upcoming artists in the country? Shivaraju says, “Being an artist is a very personal experience, believing in yourself and finding your own voice is a complex and painful journey. Once you decide to take your work seriously, everything falls into place, and of course all your life experiences and skills help you to deal with the subject.”

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Begum Sahiba of Lucknow: At the Age of 100, Hamida Habibullah Lives on as an Iconic Figure

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The City of Nawabs has a long and rich history of noteworthy personalities engaged in various facilities. Here is one of them, a living icon of our times – the woman who has been called “the iconic face of Indian womanhood in post-Independence India”. Petite, graceful, confident, determined, tireless, exuding an old world charm… there are many words that can be used to describe the charming Begum Hamida Habibullah, parliamentarian, educationist, social worker, and icon, who has just turned 100! Her very public birthday celebrations in her hometown Lucknow were replete with cake-cutting, confetti, speeches, songs, and loads of nostalgia. In addition to her long years, it celebrated her many achievements, contributions, and sustained efforts to enrich her community, and especially to reach out to underprivileged girls and women. Going down memory lane with her at her ancestral home in the sprawling Habibullah Estate, a landmark in the Nawabi City, a fortnight before the big day, turned out to be an unforgettable experience. Sipping tea and surrounded by her loving family and her pet dog, she looked the quintessential matriarch, truly satisfied with her life. Indeed, her manicured hands, perfectly styled hairdo, the elegant pearl jewellery, and hospitality… everything seemed so much in sync.

As the conversation stretched over two hours, she displayed no signs of fatigue and, in fact, it was not always easy to keep pace with her thoughts as she spoke of a distant past, describing in details things that are now only a part of history.

[caption id="attachment_77613" align="aligncenter" width="500"] Petite, graceful, confident, exuding an old-world charm…there are many words that can be used to describe the charming Begum Hamida Habibullah, who has just turned 100![/caption] Born in Hyderabad, the Begum’s father, Nawab Nazir Yar Jung, was the Chief Justice of the Hyderabad High Court, and Hamida, the only daughter among three brothers, was the apple of his eye. She excelled in academics and topped the Senior Cambridge examinations from Osmania University. Hamida learnt a lot in her classrooms, but it was her trip to London as a teenager that changed her views about life. She really took to English society and lifestyle, and wanted to stay back and do her higher studies at Cambridge University. “But this greatly upset my mother who had already settled my marriage in India in the Habibullah family, the Taluqedars of Saidanpur, Bara Banki, in Uttar Pradesh. She did not want to go back on her commitment and so she cajoled me into returning,” recalled Begum Habibullah, confessing that she was hugely disappointed as her great desire to study at Cambridge remained unfulfilled. But she is glad she heeded her mother and “did not cause her or the family any pain or embarrassment”. In 1938, she married the young, dashing man who, in later years, became the illustrious Major General Enaith Habibullah. Of course, nuptials didn’t put brakes on the young woman’s dreams and academic pursuits. She did go back to London to do a two-year teachers’ training course from White Lands College, Putney. On her return, she played a major role in furthering women’s education in the region.
“My mother-in-law [Inam Habibullah] was passionate about girls’ education and she supported me in completing my studies. She prepared me to carry forward her great work in the field of education and upliftment of women,” she elaborated.
[caption id="attachment_77614" align="aligncenter" width="500"] Begum Hamida Habibullah has had a full, active career in politics – as an MLA, State-level Minister, and a member of the Rajya Sabha.[/caption] It was under Begum Inam’s guidance that Hamida took to working towards making quality learning accessible to girls in Lucknow. Talimgah-e-Niswan, a school for minority girls set up by her mother-in-law, began with three students on its rolls. Today, this iconic institution has grown exponentially, admitting a whopping 3,500 students, the majority from lower-income minority families. Additionally, Begum Hamida was the president of the Avadh Girls Degree College (AGDC), Lucknow’s first English degree College for girls. Begum Habibullah manages many community-centric activities and her responsibilities as the head of the family-run educational institutions. However, she always took time out to travel and spend quality time with friends and family. Indeed, the stories around her outstanding skills as an attentive hostess are the stuff of legend.

From the Russian president Khrushchev to the Mountbattens, she has welcomed several world leaders into her home.

[caption id="attachment_77615" align="aligncenter" width="500"]A community champion, Begum Hamida Habibullah has worked hard to make quality education accessible to minority girls in Lucknow. A community champion, Begum Hamida Habibullah has worked hard to make quality education accessible to minority girls in Lucknow.[/caption] Her family’s close proximity with the Nehrus – intact till date – paved the way for a hectic political life. A staunch Congress supporter, it was in 1965, after the retirement of her husband, that she joined active politics. She served as an elected Member of Legislative Assembly (MLA) from Haidergarh, was State Minister of Social and Harijan Welfare, National Integration & Civil Defence from 1971-73, and Tourism Minister from 1971-74. Thereafter, she was a member of the Rajya Sabha from 1976 till 1982. For her, the Nehruvian era represents the “best period” in India’s political history, a time when people practised “gentleman politics”. Today, she is very disturbed by the way politics plays on caste and religion. The turning point for Begum Habibullah came with the passing away of her husband in 1990. For a while it seemed like everything had come to a naught, a standstill. For a brief period, she even moved to Delhi to be with her daughter. But Lucknow has always pulled at her heart strings and she couldn’t stay away. She took control after a while and returned to helping people and taking an interest in their lives. These days, she divides her time between Lucknow and Delhi, enjoying the best of both worlds. When asked what she’d wish for when she blew out her birthday candles, pat came the reply: “I pray that my family remains healthy and happy.” A woman with strong family ties, Begum Habibullah remains concerned for the welfare of her people and her city. She is indeed a matchless centurion, still going strong.
Written by Kulsum Mustafa for Women’s Feature Service (WFS) and republished here in arrangement with WFS.
Click here to learn more about Lucknow’s Talimgah-e-Niswan Inter College.

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MY STORY: I Explored India On a Cycle and a Shoestring Budget And Will Be Going to SE Asia Soon

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In the MY STORY section, we present some of the most compelling and pertinent stories and experiences shared with us by our readers. Do you have something to share? Write to us: contact@thebetterindia.com with "MY STORY" in the subject line.

My name is Mohit Kapoor and I am a cycling enthusiast and traveller by heart. When my father offered to buy me a scooter at the age of 16, I decided to pass on his offer and asked for a bicycle instead. I wanted a petrol-free vehicle. My father let me have my way and soon, I started a journey to explore Rajasthan.

Not satisfied with this small sojourn, I decided I wanted to travel from Kashmir to Kanyakumari.

2 I had no money but I was not to be deterred. I set off on my bicycle for a journey that took me from Rohtang Pass near Manali in Himachal Pradesh to Vivekanand Rock Memorial at the southernmost point of India. Alone, without money or a sponsor, I sold my cell phone to arrange equipment for this tour. Finding food and shelter in gurudwaras and temples during the trip, I conquered the goal I had set for myself and lived a dream that I chased all alone. Pedalling from Manali to Kanyakumari in less than a month and then sitting on the last rock in India, touching the seagreen waters of the India Ocean, I encountered the good, the bad, and the beautiful of India.

In the second and concluding part of this odyssey, I felt like I had left my teens behind to become a man, and had come to know myself through my bicycle, a strong pair of legs, and a will of steel.

3 Self-inspired as I was, I again decided to venture on my next cycling expedition. Travelling through Ladakh on a saddle and two pedals, I lived this dream too with the same fervour. By the time the trip was over I knew I wanted to explore the world. I had learnt a lot about India from the roads I had travelled but was thirsty for more adventures. I had always dreamt of being a chef. I had grown up devouring food shows on TV and always wanted to visit the Middle East. But, sadly, that was out of the question as it meant having to cycle through Pakistan and Afghanistan. Not only was this dangerous, my parents would have scuttled my plans even before I took off. I then decided to plan my ride to South East Asia instead, via the great Himalayas. That would kill two birds with one stone - not only would the ride take me through some of the most amazing places on Earth but I would also able to immerse myself in culinary adventures far removed from the Rajasthani food I was accustomed to. My endeavour has already begun. I will be pedalling through nine countries of South East Asia – India, Nepal, Bhutan, Myanmar, Thailand, Laos, Cambodia, Vietnam, and Malaysia. My plan is to not just witness some breathtaking landscapes and scenery but to indulge in and learn about the famous foods and traditional tastes of every region on my route. I can't think of any better way to make my dream come true – I will be gratifying my soul by traversing through spectacular landscapes and also my taste buds by indulging in delicious foods. It was hard to explain my decision to my parents to take a break before I joined college and ride on a bicycle for a year. It took me five months to satisfy their queries and convince them that my journey would be a learning process, so essential for a young man on the cusp of adulthood. But now, after having planned my dream ride to the last detail, I hit another pothole: where would the money come from? I started to look for sponsors. I met many people from different companies for help. I used to hitchhike as I did not have enough money to buy tickets. And most of the time I thought people would loosen their purse strings to support a noble venture but, alas, I was politely declined. I would make my way back home with disappointment written all over my face. Somehow, goodwill worked and I got some sponsors for my trip – but no cash. I decided to set out anyway and see how I could manage and make my way on the road. Next morning, I had a lovely breakfast prepared by mom with lots of love and blessings for my continental adventure. After all, how many kids are crazy enough to venture on a bicycle to unknown lands? Here I was, taking off into the wild blue yonder with an undefined destination or time. There was only a vague plan to see the world and learn to cook Nom hua chuoi or the banana-flower salad in Vietnam. It helped me when some friends decided to ride along for the whole day; their camaraderie and good wishes gave me the strength to reach Delhi where I was surprised to see a big welcome planned for me. There were around 100 pedal pushers from the cycling community, who had assembled to cheer me on. There, my jersey pocket became unexpectedly heavy – someone had slipped in an envelope containing Rs 3,000 with a note that simply read: 'Happy Journey!' My eyes were filled with tears; I couldn’t even thank the well-wisher who dropped it in my pocket as I did not know who he/she was.

Next day, with my heart full of emotions, I left Delhi and reached Karnal toll by night. People would stop me and ask where I was heading. After a long conversation and delicious dinner with one of these strangers, I camped there and slept.

1 The next day I crossed Ambala, deciding to leave the highway and taking the back roads. The ride was more interesting than I expected. A lady stopped me and asked me to spend some time with her family – she was the wife of a mukhiya of a village. I was lucky to witness a gram panchayat meeting and taste some local delicacies she had prepared for me. On my way to Kullu, I met with an accident and lost the only jacket I was carrying with me. I reached Manali and called a friend to ask him to loan me his winter wear as I did not have enough money to buy a new jacket. I stayed at a backpackers’ hostel in a small village called Jagatshukh, where I met people from different countries. We all stayed up late to watch the starry night and have some fun. My breakfast was not what I was used to having back at home. But I relished some fresh apples from the trees nearby. I trekked to a waterfall and visited a village to learn how to cook some local dishes. Soon after, I left for the Spiti valley – an amazing part of the world! I went on to Nepal and finished exploring that country too. Next, I left for Kolkata to arrange for a visa and permits for Myanmar. This will take time since I am short of funds. In the meantime, I have left my bike behind in Kolkata and am currently walking and hitchhiking in South India to learn more about the cuisine here. If you would like to help Mohit achieve his dream, you can contribute to his trip here: http://www.ketto.org/munchingonsaddle You can follow his journey herehttps://www.facebook.com/muchingonsaddle

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5 Awesome Things That Came out in Our Discussion with Two Nobel Peace Laureates

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Ever wondered what happens when two eminent Nobel Peace Laureates come together to discuss pertinent issues affecting the society? You end up with a prolific conversation revolving around poverty, child labour and economic strife among others. And that's exactly what happened during a recent live Facebook session hosted by The Better India, featuring  H.E. José Ramos-Horta (former President of East Timor & United Nations Special Representative) and Kailash Satyarthi (founder of Bachpan Bachao Andolan). Here are five takeaways from the stellar discussion: 1. Kailash Satyarthi was 26 when he quit his job as an electrical engineer to start Bachpan Bachao Andolan but the spark to combat child labour began when he was just a child. On the first day of school, he saw a cobbler boy and asked his parents and teachers the reason behind why the he wasn't going to school.

Everyone told him not to worry about these issues but it made him angry nevertheless.

since 2. H.E. José Ramos-Horta, as the President of East Timor, launched a project that provided housing for the poor. Having only limited budget, he went to the poorest of the neighbourhoods and spoke to the residents directly. He asked them not only to choose the families that they thought deserved these homes the most but also to find the land on which the houses would be built on.

Over 100 houses (costing between two to four thousand dollars each) were built in the city.

there-was-never-any-dispute-about-who-should-get-it-the-houses-or-dispute-of-land-and-each-house-costed-two-to-three-thousand-dollars 3. Given the highly sensitive nature of his work, Kailash Satyarthi has faced immense resistance from the syndicates that benefit from child labour and has even been physically assaulted a number of times resulting in broken bones and other serious injuries.

But he never considered giving up this cause.

each-time-they-attacked-me-or-my-people-my-belief-has-gone-deeper-and-conviction-has-gone-more-sharper-and-deeper 4. H.E. José Ramos-Horta believes that while he may not be able to help everybody, he will do what he can to help at least one person. He recounts an incident several years ago when he tracked down an impoverished girl living in Afghanistan after watching her interview on BBC.

Upon finding her, he provided aid to that the girl and her family in whatever capacity he could.

if-you-are-saving-one-person-then-you-are-saving-that-one-person-and-thats-my-philosphy-1 5. Kailash Sathyarthi notes that the key to addressing economic exclusion lies in education and the biggest impediment to this is child labour. He reasons that illiterate people will remain poor and the poor people will remain illiterate.

Globally, 168 million children are working full-time jobs and 210 million adults are unemployed.

since-2 Watch the discussion here:
Nobel Laureates DiscussionWe are live in a discussion with TWO Nobel Peace Laureates - H.E. José Ramos-Horta (former President of East Timor & United Nations Special Representative) and Mr. Kailash Satyarthi (founder of Bachpan Bachao Andolan). Posted by TheBetterIndia on Tuesday, December 13, 2016
All pictures: Kailash Sathyarthi/Facebook, H.E. José Ramos-Horta/Facebook

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TBI Blogs: Want to Make the Most of Self-Improvement Tips? These 5 Points Will Help You Out!

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There is no dearth of experts and well-wishers giving tips for self-improvement. But how do you actually use these tips to positively impact your life? Read on to find out. Young working professionals often have a hard time keeping up the pace, and hitting the mark every single day. There are times when you run out of gas and you feel, “This is not how it is supposed to be!”  So here are five ways to implement self-improvement tips that will help pick you up when you’re feeling down and out. Self Improvement

Take small steps

[caption id="attachment_78377" align="aligncenter" width="500"]29843441132_72b862503f_o Source: Flickr[/caption] So you want to do more, but you haven’t been doing anything at all. Don’t expect to be able to do everything for hours together the minute you make up your mind to. Keep realistic goals and take baby steps – you must know how to crawl before you can walk. Taking smaller steps will help you achieve some goals, if not all. As you succeed in a few things, your motivation level is boosted. You give yourself the confidence of “I can do it”, with proof.

Make a plan

[caption id="attachment_78379" align="aligncenter" width="500"]Source: Pixabay Source: Pixabay[/caption] Does it seem like you have a million things to complete, and no time to finish them? Plan out your time, however limited it is. Writing down a plan gives you clarity about how much you can achieve, and your work seems less daunting when it is put on paper. Planning also gives you a realistic picture about all that you have to do, so you can divide your time as needed. You can identify your priorities, and it’s much easier to get things done this way.

Reward yourself

[caption id="attachment_78381" align="aligncenter" width="500"]Source: Pixabay Source: Pixabay[/caption] You finished a task you had vowed to do – give yourself a little treat. It is important to acknowledge your achievements. This gives you the positivity required to keep going. You motivate and give yourself another reason to get up and do things. The reward aspires you to do more.

Use physical reminders of your goal

[caption id="attachment_78383" align="aligncenter" width="500"]Source: Pexels Source: Pexels[/caption] So you want to achieve your goals? Put up posters about hard work, and maybe even the things you want to achieve, in places where you can see them. Physical cues act as a great way to remind you of what you are working for. When you continuously remind yourself about the things you want to achieve, you tend to do them. With physical reminders, you can’t give yourself excuses like “I forgot!”

Get help

[caption id="attachment_78384" align="aligncenter" width="500"]Source: Source: By GetHomeHelp.co.in (Own work) [CC BY-SA 4.0], via Wikimedia Commons[/caption]You have an important event coming up, but you are unable to concentrate. You have tried all self-help tips and hacks, but they are of no use. It is time to seek help. Admitting that you need help is the first step to recovery and is winning half the battle. Let trained professionals help you with their expertise – they can help you achieve your goals. Their expert tips and methods will help you achieve your goals in a better way. With these tips, you can derive maximum benefit from all the self-improvement advice you get, and make better use of your time. Use them to tick off your to-do list easier, and instill self-confidence in your capabilities. If you need personalised advice or help on anything under the sun, experts at YourDOST can help.

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Meet The First Indian Cricketer to Make It to ICC’s Women’s Team of the Year 2016

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In a historic moment for women's cricket in India, Indian batswoman Smriti Mandhana became the only Indian cricketer to be named in the first ever ICC Women's Team of the Year 2016. The 12-member team will be led by Stafanie Taylor, who led the West Indies to their maiden ICC Women's World Twenty20 title in India earlier this year. The women's team of the year has been added to the list of awards to acknowledge and appreciate the outstanding performances of women cricketers over a 12-month period. [caption id="attachment_78390" align="aligncenter" width="825"]smritilisticlegetty Smriti Mandhana[/caption]
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The second Indian after Harmanpreet Kaur to represent India in Australia’s Women’s Big Bash League, 20-year-old Smriti Mandhana turned heads during her Australian tour, where she scored 157 runs in the three One-Day Internationals, including a maiden century. She also played a crucial role in India’s historic T20 series against the Aussies.

Here is the story of Smriti Mandhana's prodigious journey in the world of women's cricket.

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Currently a key batswoman in the Indian women’s cricket team, Smriti Mandhana was just nine when she was picked for Maharashtra’s Under-15 team. Her elder brother Shravan, an aspiring cricketer, used to play for Maharashtra Under-16s and had made a name for himself on the domestic cricket scene. He made it as far as Maharashtra Under-19s before the pursuit of academic excellence resulted in a promising career coming to a halt. He is now employed with a private bank as a branch manager. Whenever Shravan used to play at any tournament, little Mandhana used to tag along with her father to watch him play. Back then, Shravan's prolific form used to ensure that his name was printed regularly in the local papers. Mandhana used to carefully cut and collect those clippings. It was her dream to score runs like her beloved elder brother and see her name printed in the papers for excelling at the sport. Her father, a chemical distributor at a textile company, never said no to Mandhana's aspirations and used help her practice, whenever her brother went for a net session. Having seen his young daughter face older bowlers with a confidence that belied her age, he was convinced that Mandhana had a future in the sport. Realising that he had little time to personally channelise her talent in the right direction, he put Mandhana under the watchful eyes of Anant Tambwekar, a junior state coach. Growing up in Sangli, a small town in Maharashtra, Mandhana used to train in the morning before going to school, and then return to practice at the nets in the evening. At 11, Mandhana was fast-tracked into the Maharashtra Under-19s side, but an opportunity in the playing XI did not come about for the first two years. [caption id="attachment_78394" align="aligncenter" width="600"]cdxgon9usaa-frb Smriti Mandhana[/caption]
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It was at the age of 15 that Mandhana had to take a big decision. Class 10 board exams were over and she had to take a call about pursuing cricket as a career. While she was serious about cricket, she also wanted to take up science. It was Mandhana's mother who dissuaded her because she knew that it would be tough to balance both studies and cricket. Her mother's decision, which Mandhana is thankful for now, stood vindicated when Mandhana scored three centuries and a double-century - an unbeaten 224 against Gujarat Under-19s in Vadodara - in the Inter State Under-19s one-day competition. She followed that up with exemplary scores in other Under-19 limited-overs tournaments, paving the way for her inclusion in the Challenger Trophy. Against the country's best bowling crop, Mandhana did not just manage to hold her own, she stood out by topping the run-charts. At 15, Mandhana's histrionics on the field had brought her into the reckoning for the national team. However, she knew she would have to do something to match her peers who were training on turf wickets at big grounds with better training facilities. So, Mandhana used all her savings to build a concrete pitch to facilitate her batting sessions during the monsoon season. [caption id="attachment_78395" align="aligncenter" width="500"]cklt1nwveaay3oj Smriti Mandhana[/caption]
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All her efforts paid off when Mandhana got her first India call-up for short limited-overs series against Bangladesh in 2013.  However, it was in 2014 when she truly left her mark on international women's cricket. She first skipped her class 12 board exams for World T20 cup, missing an entire academic year, and then had to forego admissions into the college course she wanted to enroll for a tour of England.   A spunky 16-year-old, Mandhana caught the attention of the cricketing community when she scored a half-century in her Test debut to help her side win against England, India's first win in eight years. The special win ensured that both Mandhana and the Indian women's cricket team got more international matches to play.
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A first-year Bachelor of Commerce student at Chintaman Rao College of Commerce in Sangli, Mandhana spends a lot of her off-field time doing visualisation exercises and meditation, but does not waste much energy in thinking about the game. Focused and serious on the field, she is quite the prankster off it and loves listening to Arijit Singh songs, reading books and binge eating on street food. A bat, autographed by Rahul Dravid for her older brother Shravan, is her prized possession and can be always be found in her kit though she doesn't use it (it's too big for her to use!). When Mandhana started playing, she wanted to dominate with the bat like her idol Matthew Hayden did, but remodeled herself around Kumar Sangakkara's style once her coaches told her timing, and not brute force, was her forte. Still, she was delighted when her exploits in Australia made Hayden praise her batting style. The hardworking cricketer is now looking forward to fulfilling her next dream: winning a World Cup for India. [caption id="attachment_78392" align="aligncenter" width="640"]cricket4 The Indian Women's Team after winning the T20 series against Australia[/caption]
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At an age where her compatriots are just starting to contemplate a career, 20-year-old Mandhana has already established herself as a pivot around which the Indian batting revolves. A mature batswoman, she can tame the best of bowling attacks. With the quality and depth of her game growing with time, its little wonder that she has become the first and only Indian cricketer in the inaugural ICC Women's Team of the Year. Here's wishing her all the best in her journey ahead!
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Why This Indian Researcher in the US Teaches Non-Violence to His Students

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A 7,836-mile detour led a former University of Dayton research engineer with more than 100 research publications and 15 patents, to the University of Dayton Human Rights Center -- to start another journey to stamp out violence.

In the midst of his 34-year-long career as a researcher at the University of Dayton Research Institute, Binod Kumar's annual trip to his native country India to visit his family in 2002 was much different.

binod His family warned him not to divulge any details about his visit because his hometown was simply too violent and dangerous. But there's one detail he talks about now that changed his life – a trip to Vaishali, long considered the birthplace of democracy and peace and nonviolence movements. Buddha, who preached compassion, love, and wisdom, also built a monastery there.
"The administration of that part of India at that time (2002) was known as 'jungle raj (kingdom).' Kidnapping, murder and rape were rampant," Kumar said. "But a friend took me to Vaishali, about 20 km from my birthplace. He made a comment that the philosophy of nonviolence was shaped here. I started thinking 'if the philosophy of nonviolence began here, why is there so much violence?'"
Kumar asked himself what happened to the virtues of nonviolence and thought, "maybe I should do something about this." He sought researchers who could help him understand the nonviolence movement. He started an endowment at the University in 2005 to fund nonviolence education and worked with the College of Arts and Sciences to bring speakers to campus to spread the gospel of nonviolence. "At the time, I had no idea what 'education in nonviolence' meant, and how it would be implemented," he said. Until there was yet another detour! "I was talking to Paul (Benson, College of Arts and Sciences dean at the time) and mentioned that I would be retiring from the Research Institute soon, and would be happy to contribute my time to help move nonviolence education at the University of Dayton forward." But after retiring from the Research Institute in 2014, Kumar quickly went from simply "contributing time" to being appointment as a human rights fellow in the University of Dayton Human Rights Center. He started teaching a course on nonviolence. As a fellow, Kumar continues his intellectual curiosity into the causes of violence, which he defines as the "intent and act of doing harm." Put simply, the causes of violence, he says, are money, ego and power. But there are many roots — natural (drought, famine, climate change); social (religion, race, gangs, social media); political (flawed democracy, terrorism, criminal justice system); business (pollution, slavery, trafficking); and technology (global warming, and radicalization and hate campaigns through social media). "After the Orlando shootings, I read news reports about the horrific violence. It was linked to a spectrum of causes — Islam, ISIS, anti-LGBT bias, guns, politics and anti-Hispanic bias. To me, it was simply an act of gruesome violence perpetuated by a lone person. If we want to prevent violence, the focus of remedial measures should be on that person," Kumar said. "People want to give it different names, but violence is violence. And we are getting distracted from the roots of it, and we are not addressing it properly." So what do we do?
"Teach nonviolence to prevent violence," an animated Kumar said. "It should be taught at the family level. It should be taught in elementary and middle schools, in high school, and even at universities. "As the causes of violence, simply put, are often money, ego and power, the promoters of nonviolence are, also simply put, nurture, culture and education."
After two years in the Human Rights Center, Kumar said he's still enjoying this work and being in the classroom. He plans to continue showing students everything they do in their life or profession — business, engineering, politics, etc. — affects the equilibrium between violence and nonviolence. "The second job is to show people the connection between human rights and their chosen field," Kumar said. "Every time there's a human rights violation, there's some form of violence in one way or another, whether physical, emotional or plain verbal abuse." Kumar will keep on fighting for the good of the human race. "When can we claim success? That's a huge question. Violence is associated with the evolution of the human race. Let's accept that. I think what we can do is minimize it so the human race can advance and prosper," he said. "If violence continues to be too much, the progress of the human race will be impeded." (Written by Shawn Robinson) For more information, contact Shawn Robinson at srobinson@udayton.edu.

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A Ride That Changed an Ola Driver’s Life

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How many times have you met someone in passing with a heart-wrenching story to share? How many times have you walked away, feeling you could have helped, and probably should have, but it was too late?

Here’s the thing about Rahul Mahajan: he stayed, and he helped.

ola6 It was a fairly regular day for Mahajan, a sales head for a beauty and cosmetics company. He was just done with his trip home to Chandigarh. Bags packed for his work abode of Bangalore, he booked an Ola cab to take him to the airport for his flight back. The driver, Lakhvinder Singh, was on his way to pick him up. When Mahajan entered the car, Singh was busy on a phone call in the middle of what sounded like a heated argument. As Mahajan waited patiently, Singh hung up and apologised, saying it was a call from the bank. Nothing out of the ordinary, right? And then came the kicker: “Sir, please help me sell my kidney,” Singh said. Mahajan was taken aback – “What are you saying? It’s illegal. You’re young, it is going to hurt your body.” "Sir, if my body cannot help me or my family, what will I do with it?" came Singh’s reply.
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Singh lives in Nadiali village, next to Chandigarh airport. His father is a daily wage worker and his mother does odd jobs in the neighbourhood houses. He is married with a 6-year-old son, and has three brothers.

ola4 Just months ago, he owned a car, financed through a local financier, and had almost paid off his debt. By this time he was working about 18 hours a day, saving close to Rs. 30,000 per month driving for Ola. However, a family dispute resulted in him selling his car to keep the land on which his house stood. Now, he drives a car for someone else and gets paid Rs. 40 per trip. His son, who was studying in a good school, had to be shifted to a local government school. And it was the financiers on the phone asking him about an EMI that he was yet to pay. He was now desperate to do anything to keep his family afloat at a time of crisis.

What made Mahajan help?

ola3 “We have a lot of discussions about why India is like this -- idealistic conversations over wine that usually end there.” And Mahajan had had the same conversation the night before and was itching to do something about it. “I believe that if there is a problem that money can solve, then why not solve it?” Mahajan says.
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The problem, he said, was simple enough to be fixed. He posted the details on Facebook before his flight and by the time he landed, he was flooded with replies. His friends on Facebook had offered to help and collectively, the offers could have covered almost 30% of what was needed. “So I thought, listen, I can fund this. There are so many like-minded people wanting to help,” says Mahajan. He then went on to put up Singh’s requirement on a crowdfunding platform, which helped give the campaign clarity and some transparency, enabling him to garner more funds with great ease. “I never thought that a stranger would take the time out to help me like this. When I was in need of help, I would talk to all my passengers about my problem, hoping that one of them would help me out. At that point I was ready to do anything, even sell my kidney. And I feel like Rahul was god-sent.” says Singh. He adds that the day Mahajan decided to help him, he was so happy he could barely eat.

The campaign aims to raise a total of Rs. 2,20,700. With this money, Singh plans to buy the car that he drives now and earn his living like he used to.

ola1 He wants to get his family’s life back on track and see his dream of his son getting into the army fulfilled.
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“I never knew about crowd-funding. Once I get back on my feet and start earning a steady income, I will definitely help someone using this platform, just like how people helped me in my time of need,” Singh says.

You can help the cause by donating here.

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TBI Blogs: Meet the Leader Who Used Gandhian Values to Instil Democracy in Tunisia after the Arab Spring

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The Jasmine Revolution in Tunisia, and the subsequent Arab Spring, shook the foundations of power in the Arab world. Through it all, one man helped guide Tunisia successfully to true democracy, and inspired leaders all over the world – Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi. Born June 22, 1941, Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi is the President of the Ennahdha Party, the largest political party in Tunisia. His perseverance and ability to engage with the viewpoints of other party groups in Tunisia has guided his party in adopting a modern, forward-looking Constitution and ensuring a peaceful transition of power, leading to the establishment of a durable democracy in Tunisia. Sheikh Ghannouchi was born in a modest farmer’s family in Gabes in Southeastern Tunisia. He completed his early education in his village, after which he studied an Islamic curriculum in Gabes and Tunis in the Zitouna College and University. Sheikh Ghannouchi later went to Egypt, Syria, and France for further studies. In the late 1970s, Sheikh Ghannouchi focused on politics as nationwide discontent against the increasingly authoritarian regime was growing in Tunisia. In June 1981, he formed the Islamic Tendency Movement, known in Tunisia by its French acronym MTI.

The organisation aimed to reform Islam and revive Tunisian society in the intellectual, social, political, cultural, and educational spheres.

25 From the beginning of Sheikh Ghannouchi’s political career, he had a very progressive approach to women’s participation in public life. Commitment to women’s rights was included in the Founding Declaration of the MTI issued in June 1981. In 1988, in response to changes in laws in Tunisia which allowed the creation of a multi-party system, the movement changed its name from the MTI to Ennahdha (Renaissance) party. Sheikh Ghannouchi sought exile in London in 1989 when all the seats were awarded to the ruling party and the regime launched a crackdown on its opponents. After long years of political repression and corruption, the Revolution of January 2011 took place. Sheikh Ghannouchi returned to Tunisia from London and led the Ennahdha Party campaign for the October 2011 elections in which Ennahdha won 41 % of the seats in the National Constituent Assembly (NCA) and formed a Government in coalition with two secular parties. As the party President, he nominated large numbers of women candidates during the 2011 elections and subsequently to Government. With 42 out of Ennahdha’s 89 members in the NCA as women, the party had the largest number of female Parliamentarians in the Assembly.

The Ennahdha Party also ensured that Tunisian youth are represented by politicians who can understand them.

29 Through the challenging two years of Constitution-drafting that followed, Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi showed sagacity, patience, and broad-mindedness, combined with courageous and empathetic leadership skills. He worked tirelessly to reduce the mutual suspicion and acrimony between secularists and Islamists in matters connected to the Constitution, other laws, and social morals, including consistently emphasizing respect for different ways of life and the duty of the State to respect all citizens and their private choices. Sheikh Ghannouchi played a central role in ensuring that a moderate position based on equality and liberty prevailed for all. Thus, unconditional gender equality was enshrined in the Constitution, as was freedom of conscience. Takfirism is a practice whereby Islamic radicals declare a fellow-Muslim as a non-believer and thereby render it legitimate for him to be killed per their own perverse logic. Sheikh Ghannouchi declared the practice of Takfirism to be un-Islamic and agreed to insert a provision outlawing it in the Constitution. The Constitution also contains guarantees for social, economic, cultural, and environmental rights. Tunisia has, thus, adopted what is considered to be among the most forward-looking and progressive Constitutions of the world. Sheikh Ghannouchi’s leadership was crucial in explaining to the people of Tunisia that democracy did not mean merely a brute majoritarianism.

He pioneered a consensus-based approach to democratization.

Tunisian Islamist Ennahdha Party leader Rached Ghannouchi (C) attends the discussions on May 22, 2016, in Hammamet on the third-day of the Ennahdha congress. Around 1,200 Ennahda delegates will meet over the weekend in Hammamet, south of Tunis, to discuss the party's future and adopt economic, political and social roadmaps. / AFP PHOTO / FETHI BELAID Sheikh Ghannouchi was the only leader who achieved two different critically important “bridging tasks”. The first was to imagine and argue for bridges connecting the most important values of contemporary democracy and of Islam – a work of deep and innovative scholarship and constant public advocacy. The second bridging task was to build political agreements between moderate secularists and moderate Islamists, whose eventual cooperation was indispensable in crafting the peaceful democratic elections and the most consensual rights-defending Constitution ever written in the Arab world. Sheikh Ghannouchi encouraged his party and the ruling coalition to hand over power to a neutral technocratic government in January 2014, to facilitate organization of the next elections. Sheikh Ghannouchi insisted on this, as he deemed the Constitution’s adoption and a smooth transition to be of paramount importance. This ensured the adoption of the Constitution by an overwhelming 94 % of the democratically-elected Constituent Assembly on 27 January, 2014, a historic moment for post-Revolution Tunisia. Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi's efforts have ensured an atmosphere of tolerance and respect, including respect for and accommodation of minority views.

This has prevented majoritarian rule and demonstrated a deep understanding of democracy.

26 Four years after the start of the Arab Spring, the vast majority of Tunisians feel proud of this new political reality. It is due to the strategic decisions made by the Ennahdha leadership that Tunisia has managed to preserve the achievements of the 2011 revolution and remain an island of democracy in a sea of autocratic regimes in the Arab world. Tunisia is the only Arab country to have made such a peaceful democratic transition. Thus, Tunisians of all political and ideological persuasions now live at peace and advance to mutual understanding. Thus, Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi has produced a political transformation in Tunisia by guiding it through a difficult time of transition – from an unstable, polarized, and acrimonious context towards a durable democracy – by using Gandhian methods of tolerance and empathy to other’s views, forgiveness to acts of transgression, and being flexible in negotiations. He has repeatedly displayed a generous spirit of accommodation in the larger interests of the nation, and emerged from great oppression to become a champion of broad-mindedness and democracy.

Recently, on 7th November, 2016, Sheikh Rached Ghannouchi was honoured with the Jamnalal Bajaj Award, in the category of International Award for Promoting Gandhian Values Outside India.

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TBI Blogs: These 7 Inspiring People Prove All Common Misconceptions about Down Syndrome Wrong

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Estimates claim that almost 30,000 children are born with Down Syndrome every year in India. People with Down Syndrome can face severe hardships and poor treatment from a society that often misunderstands their affliction. In such a scenario, these seven stories offer hope and a more well-informed understanding of one of India’s most common genetic disorders. In 2012, CurleyStreet Media was commissioned by the Down Syndrome Federation of India to create India’s first official film on Down Syndrome. The vision was to document the lives of those born with an extra chromosome, and educate people on what it takes to create a kinder, more aware, and inclusive society for the differently abled. Thus was born Indelible, a film about seven individuals living with Down Syndrome in India, and their path to embracing life with strength and grace, irrespective of the cards they have been dealt. “You have to be proud of you...your life,” says Archana, one of the heroes in the film and a bubbly, confident young woman. Indelible takes us on a journey of truly getting to know these unforgettable people – their bravery, their struggles, their dreams, their fears, and the little things that make them unique. It makes one stop and think, “Why put labels and restrictions on those who are a little different from us? Why go by textbook definitions and assumptions born of prejudice, when all it takes is kindness and an informed mind to see beyond the stereotype?” The making of this film was a labour of love and a process of discovery for us. The people we met became our friends, our inspiration, and a shining reminder of what sheer willpower can achieve. At its heart, Indelible is a story about hope, and a tribute to the indestructible human spirit. A 16-minute short version of the film was cut for screening at the World Down Syndrome Congress (2012), South Africa. The film helped India win the bid to host the next Congress in 2015. Critically, it won numerous awards, and screened across the world at various festivals. These included the Picture This Film Festival, DocuWest Film Festival, Texas Thin Line Film Festival, and Delhi Shorts Film Festival. The film was the #1 Non-Profit and Activism video on YouTube in India in August, 2012. It inspired hundreds of students around the country to volunteer vacation time at Down Syndrome Centres. The film’s full version – a feature documentary – premiered at the 8th Seattle South Asian Film Festival (‘Tasveer’) in October 2013. It was also part of the Official Selection at the International Documentary Film Festival of Kerala, 2014. At the DocWeek film festival in Adelaide, Australia (2014), Pavitra Chalam, the film’s director, received the Asia-Pacific Award for Outstanding New Documentary Talent. Indelible (Feature) from CurleyStreetMedia on Vimeo. To find out more about living with Down Syndrome, please visit the website of the Down Syndrome Federation of India.

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A Truck Driver’s Son, Harjeet Singh Led the Indian Junior Hockey Team to a Historic World Cup Win

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For the second time this year, India's junior men's hockey team beat Belgium on the way to lifting a trophy. This one, however, was the biggest prize of all. In its first such final in 15 years, India overwhelmed Belgium 2-1 to lift the 2016 Hockey Junior World Cup at Lucknow's Major Dhyan Chand Hockey Stadium on Sunday and become the second team, after Gagan Ajit Singh's colts in 2001, to get their hands on the most coveted title. This is also the first time that a host nation has won the Cup in 11 editions. [caption id="attachment_78834" align="aligncenter" width="806"]india-junior-hockey-hi_806x605_51482068768 India End 15-Year Wait, Defeat Belgium For 2nd Junior Hockey World Cup Title[/caption]
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As ever, it was the team's soft-spoken skipper Harjeet Singh who led from the front. The 20-year-old mid-fielder from Kurali in Punjab was in total control of the midfield, snatching balls and creating chances from counter attacks for his strikers, helping India control the game from the very beginning. Harjeet has also been instrumental in the junior team's other successes in recent times. He led the colts in Valencia in Spain last month where they won the four-nation Invitational Tournament beating Germany in the final.

Here's the inspiring story of Harjeet Singh went from being a shy village lad to an Indian captain who led his team to World Cup victory.

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Son of a truck driver from Kurali in Mohali district of Punjab, Harjeet Singh knows a thing or two about hardships. Back in the 200s, Harjeet started playing hockey with the neighbourhood kids. The young boy was yet to hear of any of the hockey stars of the era and his hero was a local hockey player who 'created magic on the field'. Initially, when Harjeet told his family that he wanted to play hockey as a career, they were aghast. His father did not earn much to support his playing career and it had become increasingly tough for his family to meet the monetary demands of the sport; his family had had to borrow money to buy a hockey kit for Harjeet.  So, Harjeet's parents felt that it would be tough for him to make a career in hockey and told him to stop playing the sport and focus on his studies. [caption id="attachment_78831" align="aligncenter" width="660"]m_id_425763_front Harjeet's father, Rampal Singh, is a truck driver[/caption]
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While Harjeet did pay more attention to his studies, he knew that playing hockey was where his heart lay. So, he continued to sneak out of the house and play at the Gopal Hockey Academy. When his hockey sticks used to break, his coach and seniors at the Academy would lend him one. For the longest time, Harjeet's family remained unaware that he was playing hockey. Hockey, however, changed his life and that of his family too. By the time his family came to know, Harjeet had already begun making a name for himself. Seeing him doing well, his family decided to support him. His elder brother Rajwinder Singh took up a daily wage job in Saudi Arabia to keep the money coming for Harjeet's training. Soon after, in 2008, he left his village to join the famous Surjit Singh Academy at Jalandhar. While initially he dreamt of becoming fullback like his idol, Arjuna awardee and former India captain Surjit Singh, he decided to make the midfield his forte on the advise of his coaches. The move to the midfield paid off spectacularly. In 2012, he was selected for the Punjab junior hockey team and he played a crucial role in helping the team win the Junior National title in 2012 as well as in 2013. He also made his Junior National debut in the 2012 Sultan of Johor Cup. The next year, he was named the most promising player at the 2013 Sultan of Johor Cup held in Malaysia. [caption id="attachment_78836" align="aligncenter" width="759"]harjeet-singh-m Harjeet Singh in action[/caption]  
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It was a big moment for Harjeet, one which still remains close to his heart; Hockey India awarded him Rs 1 lakh for his exemplary performance and when he returned to his village, he was welcomed by his proud parents who took him around the entire village in an open-roof jeep. Talking to the Indian Express, he later said,
"There were posters of me everywhere. It felt incredible because as a kid, I used to take the same route hiding from all the known faces so that they wouldn't tell my family that I continued to play hockey."
After this, there was no looking back for Harjeet. As Harjeet's participation in tournament's increased, financial difficulties also increased, despite his family's efforts to ensure that there was no shortage of training kits. There were times when Harjeet thought of quitting hockey due to the hardships his family was facing financing his dream.
On the field, however, Harjeet remained unstoppable. Determined to excel, he put in his sweat and blood and soon, he had made the midfield position his own. It was then that he got selected to play in the Hockey India League. A major break, this helped provide a steady source of income to meet the demands of playing hockey. His prolific performances on the field also garnered the attention of the national coaches. In 2015, he was selected as the captain of an 18 member junior hockey squad for the 8th Junior Men's Asia Cup that was held in Malaysia.
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A tournament where several faces emerged, the Junior Asia Cup was a turning point in Harjeet's career. The midfielder not only created moves but also scored an odd goal or two. He opened the scoring in India’s win over Pakistan in the group stage and was named man of the match in the final, where they once again defeated Pakistan to clinch the title.
Other than his mature displays in the midfield, what also shone through was Harjeet's natural leadership skills. As India's junior team coach Harendra Singh says, Harjeet is wise beyond his years and is always looking for ways to keep the team together and interested. At the national camp, when he is not plotting for the next match or tournament with the coach, the junior hockey team captain ensures that he takes time out to make kadak chai for rest of the players. Other than keeping them fresh and alert, Harjeet believes that sharing a cup of tea helps all of them bond as a team!
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In 2016, Harjeet was named as the 'Jugraj Singh Upcoming Player of the Year (Men-21)' at the Hockey India Annual Awards. A player who has struggled against financial hardship throughout his career, he considers the Rs 10 lakh cheque he has received as prize money as life-changing. He plans to use the prize money to support his family.
Harjeet was also rewarded for his consistency with a call-up in the senior men's squad for the Sultan Azlan Shah tournament in April (the team finished second behind world champions Australia). He was also part of the Indian senior men's team that won the silver medal at the FIH Champions Trophy in London this year where he replaced ace midfielder Sardar Singh.
Today, the Indian skipper is now working hard to ensure a place for himself in the senior squad for the Tokyo Olympics. And it won’t be a surprise if he makes the cut. A quick thinker with a vision, Harjeet Singh has the ability to help the team control the game. He is also the junior team's creative outlet. Other than using his experience with seniors to help the junior team prepare for big matches, Harjeet also helps the team prepare models for everything – from diet to field tactics.
Under Harjeet's leadership, the junior team follows just one motto for every match and every situation: play simple hockey. This was also what guided the team as they chased a dream of winning the Junior World Cup for the first time since 2001. And they did just that. On Sunday, the Indian U-21 hockey team scripted history by becoming only the second team after Germany to win the Junior World Cup for the second time in Lucknow.
"We knew what we had to do on the field. We just concentrated on playing simple hockey. We played the final like a final. We all had one aim and we thankfully managed to achieve that today", said an elated and emotional Harjeet, the precious trophy proudly by his side.

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